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[dvnews_page]Love翻译：北京外国语大学北戴河外语培训基地副校长张宝丹

Eversincethedawningofthehistoryofmankind,therehebeenmyriadsofdiversifedinventio,discoveries,andevenexploratioofthemysteriesoftheuniverse.Infact,thehumanbeingsaresointelligentthatwehesolvedalmostallkindsofproblemsweheconfrontedwith.However,nobodyhasevermadeoutwhattheword“

love”reallycootes,noteventhemostfamouspeoplesuchasgreatpoliticia,saintsandphilosopherscanclarifythemeaningof“love”,neithercantheydealwiththevariousaffairsconcerninglove.Loveislikeahugeboundlethatshroudsusallin.Wecanneitherbreakawayfromitnorescapefromit.Likeitornot,wearealwaysentangledinit.Itisaninvisiblewithoutanyform,thatshroudsindifferentpeoplefromdifferentangelItisamercilethatuetsusoreventorturesustodeath.Itisalsoasupremewhichalmostnohumancansurpa.Eveniftheyareheroes,emperors,wisemenorsaints,theycandonothingbutshowtheirhelpleeinitsface.Thosewhocanbreathethroughtheholesoftheshouldberegardedbeyondmoeandvulgarity.Lovecanbringustemporaryfortandhaine,butmostlytheybringaboutaoyanceandsufferings.Maybethisisthereasonwhymanypeopleheseenthroughtheillusioofthemortalworld.Howeveritisnotsoeasytobreakawayfromthisboundle,ever-existingandindifferentoflove.

Loveisvariedandchangeable,butroughlyitcanbedividedintothreecategories:familylove,fraternalloveandamatorylove.NotlikeMonkeyKingwhojumpedoutoftherocks,wewereallbornaftermother'spregnancyofaboutninemonths,hencewehecountlerelativeswithoutanychoice:parents,grand-parents,andgrand-parents-in-law,unclesandaunties,brothersandsisters,etc.andoncelookingatthegenealogicaltree,we'llseenoend.Familyloveiswhateveryonelongsfor,butthewarmthandsuortfromourbelovedonesarewhateveryoneyearforthemost.Buthowmanyofusaredeterminedtocontributetoourbelovedone?Andhowmanydon'texpectrepaymentandrelaxed.cocienceeveniftheyhethedesireandpreparationtocontributetotheirbeloved.Thedistancebetweenrelativesisdifferentandsoaretheirexpectatio.Butsinceit'sverydifficulttoknowhowmuchweshouldexpect,alotofworriesanddistreesemerge.

Parentsalwaysexpecttheirchildrentoshowtheirfilialobedience,oratleastpaythemfrequentvisitsaftertheyhegotmarried.Ifthechildrenfailtodothis,theyfeelhurtanduet,andthey'llevenplainabouttheirch12全文查看ildren,becausetheyjustcan'tunderstandwhytheirchildrendon'tcareaboutthemafterwhattheyhedoneforthechildrenforsomanyyearstobringthemup.Neverthele,one'sexperiencedetermineshisideology.Youngchildrenarenaturallyattachedtotheirparents,butwhentheygrowup,eciallywhentheyhemadetheirownfriends,andgotmarried,whattheyneedmostisindependenceandfreedom

,andparentssometimesmightbeetheirburden.Oncethereisgenerationgap,itbeesmoredifficulttomunicateandthiskeethemawayfromtheirparents.Objectivelyeaking,theyneedmoreindependenceinordertoachievesucce.Inthepresentsociety,whatthechildrenwanttohemostistheeconomicsuortfromtheirparents,nottheirmoralsuortuidance.Theywouldplainifyoureconomicsuortisnotuptotheirexpectatio.Thelovefromunclesandauntieswouldnaturallydwindleaftertheyhehadtheirownchildren.Onlythelovefromgrand-parentsandgrandparents-in-lawispureanddemandsnorepayment,andtheyarealsotoooldtowaitforanyrepayment.Asforthedistantrelatives,theirlovedependsontheirneeds,justastheoldsayinggoes“Thepoorhenofriendseveniftheyliveindowntownwhiletherichhedistantrelativeseveniftheyliveindeepmountai”.GrayLiu,adistantkifolk,inADreamoftheRedMaio,claimskihipwiththewealthyJiafamily,thinkingthatshemaybenefitfromitinsomeways.LiumightherunawaywithoutanytracesiftheJiafamilyhadbeenapoorone.Anothersayinggoes“Closeneighborsarebetterthandistantrelatives.”Themostdifficultistomanagetherelativeswhendoingbusiogether,justaswhattheTVseriesprogramLiuLaogendiscloses.Itisallrighttostaypoortogether,butassoonasthebusinegrowsproerous,thegroupwillbeeestrangedandevendiolvebecauseoftheunfairdistribution.Familyloveislikeamazewhichweshouldn'tgotoofarintoit,otherwise,we'llsurelygetlost.Loveisabilateralmatterandunilaterallovecanonlyleadyoutonowhereiniteofyourgoodintentio.Familyloveis,sometimes,likeanarrangedmarriage,leingnochoicestoyou.Duetothedifferentexperiencesandtastes,stayingtogethertemporarilycanbeentertaining,whilelivingtogetherforalongtimecanonlybeboringduetothelackofmoninterestandunderstanding.Howcanwemunicatewitheachotherwithoutunderstanding?Parentshethedutytosuortthechildrenwhoarenotyeteconomicallyindependent,andchildrenhethereoibilitytoprovidefortheelderlyparentswhoarelackofeconomicabilitiestosuortthemselves.Exceptthesetwokindsofdutieswhichwemustfulfill,otherkindsoflovebeeconventionalformalitiessuchaspayinisittothesickorthedeadandgivingpresentstothenewly-borc..

Noloveamongrelativeshasbeeanormalphenomenonwhichneedn'ttobefuedabout.What'sworseiswhenloveiscontaminatedbymoney.Soonerorlaterwewillgethurt.Thesoonerwegetoutofthisoflove,themorewecanpreservebeautifulmemories.

Wearenotlivinginvacuum,andthesocietyisformedofvariouskindsofpeople.Aslongaswewanttolive,study,orwork,wehetocontact,municateandcooperatewithothers.Thosewhoenjoymoninterests,mutualunderstanding,monundertakingsandmonbenefitsbeefriends.

Somefriendsarecalledfair-weatherfriends,becausetheyaretogetherjustforentertainingthemselvesbyeating,drinking,andgoiping.Oncethere'snothingtoeatanddrink,theirfriendshipisfinished.Someareiritualfriendswhosharemonambitio,pursuitsandeducation.“Theyenjoytalkingandlaughingwiththegreattalentsandnevermakefriendswiththegood-for-nothings”.ThebestexampleswouldbeYuBoyaandZhongziqioftheancienttimeswhoarefamousnotonlyfortheirloftymusicbutmainlyfortheirloftycharactersandmutualunderstandingandareciation.Theycaredverylittleaboutmaterialwealth,sotheirfriendshipisknownas“gentlemen'sfriendshipaspureaswater”.Thethirdtypeoffriendshipbelongtothosewhoshowtheirutterdevotiontoeachother.Theyarereadynotonlytosharewealandwoebutalsotodieforeachother,likethethreebrothersLiu,GuanandZhanginthenovelRomanceoftheThreeKingdoms..Weallwishtohethiskindoffriendship,butit'sofgreatdifficultyfortheordinarypeopletobeasdevotedastheywere.

Fraternalloveorfriendshipiswide-rangedandflexible.Generallyeaking,everyoneisourfriend,justasChairmanMaosays“Ourfriendsareallovertheworld”.Buttracendage,sex,nationality,stateandeconomicconditio.Tothemthemostimportantismonbenefit,moninterestandunderstanding.Friendshipisformedduringthecourseofstudying,workingandfighting.Thebattlepaniowhohesurvivedmanyhazardsusuallyenjoylong-lastingfriendship.

However,fraternalloveisnotstable.Beingawayfortooalongtime,losingallmonbenefits,friendswillbeeestranged.Oncetheirinteresthaschanged,theynolongerunderstandeachother,andeventhiswouldharmfriendship.Atalltimesandinallcountries,manyclosefriendsandbattlepaniowhoonceworkedtogetherandfoughttogetherbecameenemiesintheend.QuietafewoftheemperorsinancientChinaevenkilledthosewhohadhelpedthemfoundtheirdynasties.TheTaipingHeenlyKingdomwouldnothefailedifithadn'tbeenforthecontendingandmaacringamongthethosewhofirstroseinrebellionatthebegiingoftheuprising.Whatelseweneedtopayattentiontoisthatsomefriends,afterbeingawayfromeachotherfortoolongatime,helostsomuchoftheiroriginalcharactersthatwhenmeetingagain,youwillfeelthatyouarestillthesameasyouwere,whiletheyarenolongerthemselves.Theymayhethesamefeelingaboutyou,sosometimesit'sbetternottomeeteachotheragain.AstheChineseproverbgoes“friendshipcannotlastforthreeyearsandflowerscannotstayinbloomforthreemonths”.It'snotsoeasytomaintainrealfriendshipwhichneedsmutualunderstanding,toleranceandsacrifice.Anykindsofharshtreatmentwilldamagefriendship.

Amatorylovehasbeenamysteryforages.There'sneitheracriteriontojudgenoramonruletofollow.Nobodycantelltheexactreasowhyloveemerges.Itisnotalwaysbecauseofbeauty(theuglydoorkeeperQuasimodoinTheHunchbackofNotreDameislovedbythebeautifulGyygirlEsmeralda),norkindne(Hitleralsohashismistre),norwisdom(eventheblockheadmaysometimesmarryabeautifulgirl),norstrength(somelovestartsfromsympathy).Trueloveislikegettinganelectricshock,shakingoursoul.Itisasweetdream,akindofintoxication,indulgence,andendlepaion.

Truelovedoe'tneedalongtimetogrowup,tomakeclearthefamilytreeoftheother,neitherdoesitneedsthetimetolookaheadandbehindagainandagain.Loveisnotmarriage,whichusuallystartsfromlove,butdoe'talwaysdependonlovetomaintain.Long-lastingmarriagecaneventuallyturnintoakindoffamilylove,akindofpaniohipwhichpreservesthepanionbutlosesthepaion.Loveisoftenanwinkoftheeye,orasmilethathintsmutualunderstanding.Initeofthegreatdistancebetweenthem,peoplemayfallinloveincidentally.Hencethesaying“adistantmarriageistiedupwithamysteriousthread”.Loveneedspaion,anditcanstandbumandstumbles,uanddow,plaintsandblames.Whenitturintoapoolofwater,eeciallydeadwater,withoutanybillowsorwes,it'stimeforittodie.

Delicaciesaretasty,buteatingeverydaycanstillmakeoneloseaetite.Haineiswhateveryonelongsfor,buttoomuchhainecanoilpeoplewhomaynotcareaboutthehaiheyalreadyhe.It'suniversaltoliveinhainewithoutknowingit.Thesameistruewithlove.Veryfewpeoplecanlovethesamepersonpaionatelyalltheirlives.Alllovestoriesetoanendnomatterhowbeautifultheyare,whichalsodemotratethechangeabilityoflove.Whatonehasbeenchasingwildlymayturnintosomethingonewantstogetridofdeeratelyintheend.Besides,loveisusuallyblind,eeciallythosewhofallinloveatthefirstsight.Attheverybegiing,bothtrytodemotratetheirbeautifulsideandcoveruptheirWeakne.Fooledbythemysteriouscoloroflove,oneoftenmistakestheweakneesasmerits.However,astimepaesby,frequentcontactsmakeonebored,andevenmeritsbeedefects,andthentheendofloveising.What'smore,therearethecapriciousmenandwomenwhonevertakeloveseriously,leingthedevotedonessufferingalone.Thesayingthatthedevotedisalwaysabandonedbytheheartlehasalmostbeethetruthofloveaffairs.Whatwecan'tneglectisthatlovemayturnintohatred,andloversmayalsobeeenemies.Thebestproofisthenumerousdivorces.

Eventhoughtrueloveishardtofindnowadays,westillcanseesometrueandinfatuatedboysandgirlswhoreadilygiveuptheirfamilies,theirparents,theirstudies,theircareersandeventheirlivesforlove.Theylovesopaionately,crazilyandwildlythattheyhateanyonewhoisagaittheirlove,andmayevenharmorkillhimifheiistsonhisobjection.

Lovehasmagicalpowerthatcanexploitpeople'spotentialabilities,bringpeople'spositivefactorsintofullplay,andprovidepeoplewiththecouragetofacetrialsandhardshi,togothroughlifeanddeath,andeventoriskuniversalcondemnation.Evenintheancientfeudalsociety,somepeoplewerecourageousenoughtocarryonclandestineloveaffairs.Theexamplesinpointwerethecourageousoneswhodaredtolovetheconcubinesoftheemperorsorthechildrenoftheirfoes.Lovealsohasmiraculouspowerwhichcanstartletheuniverseandmovethegodsbyattractingtheheenlycelestialsingdowntoearth(TheLoveStoryoftheCowboyandtheWeingGirl),andbyturningghostsintohuman(StrangeTalesofLiao-zhai).Lovecantracendageandgeneration(Dr.SunYat-senandMadamSongQingling;LuxunandXuGuangping).lovecanshowcontemptforallconventioandprejudicelovecanhealwoundsandcurediseases,andlovecanreadjustpeople'sstateofmind.Ofcourse,theresultwouldbetheoositeonceithurts.

Greatmenyearnfortrueloveevenmorethanordinarypeople.Sincetheancienttimes,somanyheroescouldn'thelpfallingintothetrapoflovethatthesex-traphasbeenregardedasoneofthe36stratagemsinmilitarytactics.Fuchai,thekingoftheWuState,couldn'tbearedofthistrap,andGeneralsDongzhuoandLubufelldeeplyintoitwhileXiangyu,theKingoftheWesternChuState,bidfarewelltohisbelovedconcubineintears.Peoplemayhetopayveryhighprice,eventheirillustriousnameforthelovetheylongforeventhoughitmaylastforonlyeryshorttime.Nohelenoonecantearhimselfawayfromlove.Peopleoftensaythattheirearthlyaffinityisnotyetfinished,butinfactitistheloveaffinitythatisthemostdifficulttofinish.

Loveisshapeleandpricele.Wecanblamenobodywhencapturedbyit.Lovecannotbeforced,norcanitbepretended.Sympathyisnotlove,neitherisgratitude.Lovemustbegeneratedfromtheheart,andexpreedinactio.Itcannotbecalledlovewithoutpaioandadeeplongingfromthebottomoftheheart.There'snoimpaablegulfbetweenfamilyloveandfraternallove.Somefamilylovemayturnintofriendship.Atthesametime,naturalbarriersdoe'texisteitherbetweenfraternalloveandamatorylove.Somefriendshipmaydevelopintoamatorylove.Thesameistruewithamatorylovewhichmaychangeintofamilyloveafteralongtimeofmutualgrindingandpolishing.Theclosertherelatiohip,andthehighertheexpectatioare,themoredifficultitistogetalongwitheachother.Familylove,fraternalloveandamatorylovearethreemainhumanfeelings.Ifhandledwell,theycanbringusextremehaine,whilehandledimproperly,willbringusgreatsufferings.

Thepresentsocietyisaworldofdazzlingmoneyanddwindlinghumanfeelingcontacts.Mostpeopleholdaoishattitude.Theyonlymakefriendswithpeopleofwealthandofhighsocialstatus.JustasZhenShiyensaidinhisexpoundingofthesong“AllGoodThingsMustEnd”inADreamoftheRedMaio“Whilemenwithgoldandsilverbythechest,turnbeggarsscornedbyallanddioeed”.Franklyeaking,however,ifweregardmoneythefirstthinginwhicheveroneofthethreekindsofloves,itwilldepreciateandevenbeeworthle.

Lovecannotpretend,norcanittoleratetoomuchselfishmotives.ItisreportedthatanoldmaninJiangsuProvincelefthismillionYuanheritagetohisyounghousekeeperiteadofhisownchildren,becausehisownchildrendidn'ttakecareofhimwhiletheyounghousekeeperacpaniedhimthroughhislastlonelyandhelpleyears.

Loveiseasilyperceivableandperceptible.Flatterywordsmaybecheatable,buttrueloveandfalsefeelingscaneasilybedistinguished.Ifthepeopleyouloveonlyknowhowtoendyourmoney,youshouldbecarefulofthem.Everyonecanhelpyouendyourmoneyifyougivethemthechance.Neverturnyourloveintothesleofmoney.

Loveshouldbeselfle,andfeelingsshouldbesincere.Weshouldn'tjudgeourfeelingsaccordingtothedistanceoftherelatiohip.Everyoreasuresloveandnobodycanfoolhimselfortheothers.AChinesesayinggoes:realheroesyearnevenmorefortruelove,andgreatmencherishtenderlovefortheirchildren.

Wearethesaintonearth,andshouldtreasureourlove,butweshouldknowhowmuchisgoodandwheretostop.Sincethere'snoever-lastingbanquet,noristhereanendlelovestory,weshouldtakethegaiandloesoflovewithperfectposure.There'sfragrantgraineverycorneroftheearth,andyoucanalwaysfindyourloveinthisworld.

TralatedbyZhangBaodan

June20,2004

情北京外国语大学北戴河外语培训基地校长宋远利

人类几千年，有过许多的发明创造，有过许多的新奇发现，现在又在探索宇宙的奥秘，但始终搞不懂的就是一个“情”字。

包括那些中外的名人、伟人、圣人，一切先哲们，都说不清“情为何物”，都处理不好与情相关的种种事务。情就好比一张无边无际的网、如影随形的网，走到哪里都被它罩着。挣又挣不脱，躲又躲不了，欢喜也罢，厌烦也罢，总得被纠缠。这是一张无形的网，没有固定轮廓，会从不同的角度，以不同的方式去网住不同的人。这又是一张无情的网，不仅会让你不开心，甚至可以把人蹂躏致死。这又是一张至高无上的网，天地间几乎无人能超越它。能在这张网上开出一个小天窗，那已经是超凡脱俗了。无论什么英雄、皇帝，无论什么智者、圣贤，在情网之中都表现得无奈和束手无策。情，也许会给人们短暂的欣慰和幸福，但带给人们更多的是烦心和苦恼。这也正是许多人想脱离、想看破红尘的主要根源。但这种无边无际、无时无地、无责无义的网，岂是轻易甩得开的。

情有千种万种，也可千变万化，但归纳起来无非有三，即亲情、友情、爱情。

我们都不是孙悟空，不能从石头里蹦出来。我们要经过母亲的十月怀胎，被动地生下来。于是我们无从选择地有了众多的亲戚：父母、祖父母、外祖父母、五叔、六舅、七大姑、八大姨，兄弟姐妹，包括表兄弟姐妹等，数不清。如果续上家谱，宗亲之间更无尽无休了。

亲情是人们渴望的，但更多的是渴望从亲情中得到温暖和支持。有多少是立志为亲情奉献的呢？即便有奉献的向往和境界，又有多少在奉献之后不求回报和心理平衡的呢？亲情之间彼此距离不都一样，期望值也相差很大。但这个度到底是多少，很难把握，一切的烦恼和苦痛也由此而生。

父母总是希望孩子听话、孝顺，至少能常回家看看。如果不能呢？那就会伤心、难过，甚至抱怨。父母潜意识里总认为，我把你们供养大，没有功劳、也有苦劳，怎么能不在意我呢？但存在决定意识。孩子们小的时候固然特别依恋也依赖父母，但长大以后，特别是有了朋友、成了家，更多需要的是独立和宽松，父母有时确实成为负担。如果有代沟，交流有了困难，对父母也会更多的回避。客观地说，他们要成长为栋梁之材，也确实需要更多的独立发展。目前社会，儿女更多希望的是父母经济上的援助，而不是他们精神及生活方面的指导。经济慷慨不达标，也会抱怨。至于姑姑、叔叔、舅舅、姨娘，在有了自己的孩子后，这亲情自然会淡薄的。唯有祖父母、外祖父母对隔辈人的宠爱是纯真和不求回报的。他们的年龄也等不到回报。说到远亲，那就看需要。就如俗语所说：穷在闹市无人问，富在深山有远亲。《红楼梦》里的刘姥姥，就是个八杆子打不着的远亲，看到贾府有油水，就来攀亲。如果穷呢？那就不知刘姥姥会在哪了。远亲不如近邻。如果是做事业，亲戚在一起干最难管理。电视剧《刘老根》揭示得很深刻。穷还好办，发达了一定会因为分配不均而疏远、甚至散伙。亲情是个迷宫，不要进入太深，否则会找不到出去的门。感情不是一厢情愿的事，即便本意善良，出发点是好的，由于分寸难拿，仍然会踏上不归路。其实亲情有时好比一个包办婚姻，你没有选择，也无从选择。大家由于经历和生活品味不一样，短暂相聚，还能热热闹闹，长期相处可能会没共同情趣、没有共同语言。语言不通怎么交流？除了父母对经济尚未独立的子女有抚养义务，子女对年老又经济乏力的父母有赡养义务，必须履行外，有些亲情，已变成生老病死的一种敷衍。是亲戚而无亲情的许多现象，都很正常，不必大惊小怪。如果亲情里沾上了铜臭，那就更不值得留恋了，裂痕只是早晚。迈步抽身早，还可留存一点美好的回忆。

人不是生活在真空里。人们要生活、要学习、要工作、要干事业。人类是个群体。你总要和一些人们接触、交流、合作。其中有谈得来的，有共同志趣、共同语言、共同事业和利害关系的，就成了朋友。

友情中，有些仅止于吃吃喝喝，东家长，西家短，干不了什么正事，称为酒肉朋友。有一天没得吃，没得喝，也就各奔东西了。有的属于精神型，彼此有些共同理想、追求，有一定的文化底蕴，所谓“谈笑有鸿儒，往来无白丁”，又如古代的俞伯牙、钟子期，高山流水觅知音。他们对金钱相对要看淡些，因此被誉为“君子之交淡如水”。也有些属于生死之交，彼此肝胆相照、荣辱与共，遇到危难，可以两肋插刀，象《三国演义》中的刘、关、张，誓同生死。人们都希望得到这样的友情，但自己实践起来比较困难。

友情是一个面积宽，伸缩性大的领域。泛谈，都可称朋友，我们的朋友遍天下。细分，真正成为知已的廖廖无几。朋友不分年龄（有忘年之交），朋友不分性别（有异性朋友），朋友不分种族、不分国家、有时也不分穷富。最重要的是有共同的利害关系，有共同的兴趣和语言。友情往往是在学业中、事业中、战斗中形成。那些经历过九死一生的战友，感情尤其深厚和长久。

友情的可变性很大。分别得太久，共同的利害关系没有了，就会日久情疏。由于志趣的变化，共同语言没有了，甚至意见相左，也会破坏友谊。古今中外，许多创业的盟友、战友，最后演化为敌人。中国不少开国之君（朱元璋等）都曾杀过功臣。太平天国如果不是几个共同起事的王者相互争斗残杀，也许不至于半途而废。我们不得不注意到，一些分别得太久的朋友，生活会磨掉了他们的原形。再见面的时候，你会感到你还是你，他已不再是他了。对方也许会有同样的感觉，以致彼此感到见不如不见。人无千日好，花无百日红。维持情深谊厚的友情并不容易，需要相互理解及各自的宽容和牺牲。相互任何的苛求，都会破坏友情。

爱情是个千古之谜。爱情没有划一的标准，没有共通的规律。为什么会产生爱，谁也说不清。并不一定就是美丽（《巴黎圣母院》中丑陋的看门人也有人爱），并不一定就是善良（希特勒也有情妇），并不一定就是智慧（傻人有傻命，赖汉娶花枝），并不一定就是强大（有些爱情始于同情）。真正的爱情给人的是触电的感觉。是一种心灵的震撼，是一种魂牵梦绕，是一种陶醉，是心旷神怡，是乐不思蜀，是无限的激情。

真爱并不一定需要日久生情，并不一定需要查清祖宗三代，甚至来不及瞻前顾后。爱情并不等同于婚姻。虽然婚姻常常因爱情而起，但并不始终靠爱情维持。婚姻由于旷日持久，到后来常常会转化为一种亲情，一种伙伴关系，虽然相知相伴，却丢失了激情。

爱情常常是一个眼神，一个微笑就心有灵犀了。一见钟情是爱情的多发现象。远在天南地北，竟可以因一个偶然而相互期许，所以，才有千里姻缘一线牵的说法。

爱情是需要激情的。因而她不怕磕磕碰碰，不怕起起落落，不怕一时的抱怨和责难。如果真的成了一潭清水、甚至一潭死水，没有波澜，没有浪花，这爱情也就该死亡了。

即便是山珍海味，人们也会吃腻。太多的美好，会把人们宠坏，而不去珍惜。生在福中不知福，是很普遍的。能够激情永远的人，始终是少数。所以无论多么美好的爱情故事，都会讲完。这些都注定了爱情的多变性。曾经狂热追求的，也许是后来想极力摆脱的。况且，许多一见钟情的爱情，都带有盲目性。初起，各自都把最好的方面展示出来，而去掩饰自己的不足。加上爱情的神秘色彩，经常看花眼，缺点也会当优点去容纳。时间久了，接触多了，渐生厌倦，优点也看成了缺点，那就快结束了。更有一些水性杨花、朝三暮四的男男女女，本就把爱情当游戏，认真的一方就吃亏了。多情总被无情弃，是爱情风月场上的真理。最不可疏忽的是，爱可以转变为恨，爱情可转化为敌情。许多离婚案都是有力的证明。真正纯情的男女们，虽然已经不多，但他们真是很舍得。他们为了爱情（也许只是一时的），可以